The Boy Who Never Learned Khmer
(khmermix.com)A poignant story about a Cambodian-American boy who gradually loses his connection to the Khmer language and his journey to reclaim it.

Once upon a time in Oakland, there was a boy named Dara. His parents had crossed an ocean to escape war, carrying with them the rhythm of the Khmer language β soft syllables like falling rain, and sharp ones like the snap of bamboo.
At home, his mother would call,
"Dara, mok nov ni!" β Come here!
But Dara would answer in English, every time.
"Okay, Mom!"
In the early years, he understood her words without thinking. But school filled his head with English spelling tests, baseball games, and superhero comics. Khmer was something for the kitchen and the temple β not for the playground.
When he was twelve, his grandmother moved in. She only spoke Khmer. She tried to teach him words: plai t'naot (palm fruit), champei (frangipani), somleng (voice). Dara laughed awkwardly, repeating the sounds, but they slipped away as quickly as they came.
Years passed. Dara grew into a young man. He went to college, built a career, made friends from every background β but at family gatherings, he sat on the edge of conversations, nodding politely as the elders spoke and the younger cousins translated for him.
One summer, his grandmother passed away. At her funeral, the temple filled with chanting in Khmer, low and steady. Dara bowed his head, but he felt like a ghost in his own story β present in body, but locked out by language.
Months later, Dara visited Cambodia for the first time. The air was heavy with the smell of lemongrass and exhaust. People smiled at him, speaking words he could not answer. A little boy in the market tugged at his sleeve, asking something in Khmer. Dara froze. He didn't even know how to say, I don't understand.
That night, lying under a slow-turning fan, Dara thought about all the voices he had missed β his grandmother's stories, his parents' memories, his own heritage whispered in a language he had let slip away.
In the morning, he bought a notebook. On the first page, he wrote three words in careful letters:
αα½ααααΈ (Hello)
α’ααα»α (Thank you)
αα»αααα (Sorry)
It wasn't much. But it was a beginning.
αααααααααα½ααα α’αΌαα‘αα ααΆαααααααααα»αααααΆαααααααααΆαααΆα αͺαα»αααααΆαααααααΆααααΆααααααα αΆααα»ααααα½αααΎααααΈααα ααΈαααααααΆα αααααΉαααααΆαα½ααα½αααααΌαα ααααΆααααααΆααΆααααα β αααααααααααααΌα αααααααααΆαα αα·ααααααααααα»αααΌα ααΆααααααααα
αα αααα ααααΆαααααααΆααααΉαα α ,
"ααΆαααΆ αααα ααα!"
ααα»ααααααΆαααΆααΉαααααΎαααΆααΆααΆα’ααααααα αααααΆαααααα
"α’αΌαα αααΆαα!"
αααα»αααααΆαααααΌα ααΆαααααααΆαααααααααΆαααααα·αααΆα ααα·αα ααα»ααααααΆααΆααΆααααααααααΆαααααααΆαααααααΆαααααααααααα’ααααα’ααααααα αααααααΆααααα αα·ααα»αα·αα’αΊαααΌα ααΆααΆαααααααΊααΆα’αααΈαα½ααααααΆααααααααΆααα·ααααα β αα·αααααααααΆαααααααααααααα
αααααΆααα’αΆαα»αααααΈαααααΆα ααΆαααααααΆααααΆαααααΆαααααα α ααΆααα·ααΆαααααΆααΆαααααααα»αααααα ααΆαααΆαααααΆααΆαααααααααΆααααΆαααα ααααααΌα (palm fruit) α ααααΈ (frangipani) ααα‘αα (voice)α ααΆαααΆααΎα αααα ααααα ααααΎαααααααααΌαααα‘αα ααα»αααααα½αααΆααΆααααααααΆααα ααααΌα ααααααααΆααα
ααααΆαααααααα α ααΆαααΆααααΆαααΆαα»αααα ααΆααααΆααα αα αΆαα·ααααΆααα αααΆαα’αΆααΈααααα ααααΎαα·αααααΆαααΆαα½αααα»ααααααααααααα β ααα»αααααα αααα»αααΆαααααα»ααααα½ααΆα ααΆααα’αααα»ααα αααααααΆαααααααΆ ααααΆαααααΆαααααα½αααααΌα αααα’αααα αΆαααα·ααΆα αα·αααα’αΌααααα»αα’αΆαα»ααΌα ααααααα±ααααΆααα
αααααα½ααααα»ααααΌααααα ααΆαααααααΆααααΆαααα½ααααααΆαα αα αααααααΎαα·ααΈαα»ααα ααααααΆαααααααααααΆααααααααΆααΆααΆααααα ααΆααα·αααΆααααΆααα ααΆαααΆααααΆαααααΆα ααα»ααααααΆααααΆαα’αΆααααααααΌα ααααα αααα»αααΏαααααααΆααααααΆαα β ααΆαααααααΆαααΆααΆαααΆα ααα»ααααα αΆαααααααααΆααΆα
ααααααααα ααΆαααΆααΆααα αααααααα»ααΆααΎαααααΌαα ααααααααααααααααα·ααααααα·αα§αααααα ααα»ααααααΉααα ααΆαα αα·ααΆαααΆααααααααΆαααα·αα’αΆα ααααΎαααΆαα ααααααααα»αααΌα ααααΆαααα ααααΆαααΆαααααΆαα αα½αα’αααΈαα½αααΆααΆααΆαααααα ααΆαααΆααααααα»αα ααΆαααα·αααΉαααΆααΎαα½ααα·ααΆαααΆ αααα»ααα·ααααααα
αααααα αααααααααααα·αααααα·αααΊα ααΆαααΆαα·αα’αααΈααα‘ααααΆααα’αααααααΆααααΆαααααΆα β ααΏαααααααΆα ααΆαα αα αΆααααααͺαα»αααααΆα αααα·αααααααααααΆααααααΆαααααααααΉαααΆααΆααΆαααααΆααααΆαα±αααα’α·αα ααα
ααααΉαα‘αΎα ααΆααααΆααα·αααααα αααααααΆα αα ααΎαααααααααΌα ααΆααααΆααααααααΆαααααΈααΆα’αααααααα»αααααααααα
αα½ααααΈ (Hello)
α’ααα»α (Thank you)
αα»αααα (Sorry)
ααΆαα·ααααααΆα’αααΈα αααΎαααα ααα»ααααααΆααΆααΆαα αΆααααααΎαα